Joni’s Story

I had two abortions when I was 18 and 19 because I was afraid to tell my family, and my church just made me feel horrible for being pregnant in the first place.  Planned Parenthood was kind and accepting of me and told me that it was just a piece of tissue, and I so wanted to believe that.

However, the trauma I experienced from abortion was terrible, everything from nightmares and audible hallucinations to suicidal thoughts to not being able to bond with a child I had later.  The shame, guilt, and remorse were so great that it started a domino effect of other bad choices and consequences.  I was blessed to find not only forgiveness but great healing through a group that takes people through the grieving process and helps them let go.  But most women (and men) go through their whole lives with no one to really talk to about it.  Yet the majority of those are traumatized by it in some way.

The biggest tragedy in America in the last three generations is abortion.  There have been over 50 million lives lost.  Don’t be deceived – this doesn’t happen without great consequence.  The biggest secret in the past three generations is the trauma it causes those who participate in it.  Do you ever hear anyone talking about it?  Seldom, if ever!  That’s because if something is touted as safe, your legal right, and “Women’s Health Care,” you think you must be the only one who is suffering any bad effects.  And as long as the secret is kept, few are ever going to be free to seek out healing for their trauma.

I’m talking about it because I want those experiencing abortion trauma to know they are not alone and there is grace and support available that will help them heal.  I’m also talking about it because those who might be considering abortion need to know the great risk of trauma, that this seemingly “quick and easy solution” for an unplanned pregnancy could very well leave them with a long list of negative consequences for the rest of their lives.  Over 650 worldwide studies show the alarming evidence of abortion trauma.

This info is extremely validating for those of us who’ve experienced it and needs to be weighed into the pros and cons of choosing abortion.  People in crisis can be directed toward gracious support and resources for themselves and their babies – true women’s health care.   Turn the secret into a story of hope and grace for all!